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Sex Shaming During COVID-19 — A Discussion with Shaun Proux

Sex Shaming During COVID-19 - A Discussion with Shaun Proux

Think Queerly Podcast — Episode 133 In this special edition of the Think Queerly Podcast, I speak with my friend and colleague, Shaun Proulx about the issue of shaming and judgment of those who are choosing (and needing) to have sex during the COVID-19 pandemic and social quarantine. Haven’t We Been Here Before? In this episode...

Is Forgiveness of Homophobia a Gay Male Gift? LOP030

Forgiveness of Homophobia a Gay Male Gift

In this episode, I speak about the challenge for gay men to forgive homophobia in their lives – be it from individuals, family, and society at large. The topic for the episode was inspired by a discussion of models of forgiveness in Raymond L. Rigolisoso’s ground-breaking book, “Gay Men and The New Way Forward” and from his coaching group...

How Gay Shame Limits Self-Worth and Personal Growth – LOP008

Shame-Anthony Easton

Something I learned about myself some time ago, was how gay shame was holding me back and limiting my success. I was afraid of other people’s opinions of me. For many gay men it’s challenging to feel good enough, to feel like we belong, and to feel equal within society. Not feeling good enough started in my childhood, as it does for anyone who...

I Knew I Was Gay When I Was Five Years Old

I knew I was gay

For as long as I can remember I’ve always known, but for the longest time it wasn’t a feeling of pride. It was a combination of fear, guilt, shame, unrequited desire, silence, isolation, and otherness. I was five or six years old when I went to a girl’s house to play. I don’t remember if she was from school or one of the kids in the neighbourhood...

Kevin Spacey, #MeToo, And The Problem Of Gay Shame

“As those closest to me know, in my life I have had relationships with both men and women. I have loved and had romantic encounters with men throughout my life, and I choose now to live as a gay man. I want to deal with this honestly and openly and that starts with examining my own behaviour.” The above is Kevin Spacey’s response to Anthony Rapp’s...

Why I’m Not Good Enough: My Dirty Gay Secret

Why I’m Not Good Enough - My Dirty Gay Secret

There’s a lot of gay shame that runs as an undercurrent in my life. This morning I watched a video by coach Dax Moy. He was talking about the difference between guilt and shame. Guilt is how you feel about what you did or didn’t do. Shame is how you feel about who you are or who you are not. A light clicked on, illuminating something that’s been a...

Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.