The Need for Control and Belonging: The Zeitgeist of Social Media


Blaming LGBTQ and People of Colour for the ills of the world demonstrates ignorance and a lack of critical thinking skills. TQ106

This morning I read a tweet by someone I follow referencing Tucker Carlson and another right-wing pundit blaming the forest fires in Los Angeles on diversity programs and LGBTQ people:

Tucker Carlson and Dave Rubin Blame California Wildfires on ‘Woke’ Public Utilities Focused on Being Pro-LGBT and Racially Diverse.”

I had to ask myself, why. Why do people think like this? What is the cause of this? I realized it is nothing more complicated than the various stages of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. I think the core issues that are bothering people are a lack of control and a lack of belonging; specifically, how do I feel safe, secure, supported, loved, and respected.

In this episode I discuss:

  • When you feel like you have no control over your ability to earn enough income to keep a roof over your head, or when you feel like you have no control of your physical safety as an LGBTQ person, what is life like for you?
  • Why belonging is a far more complex issue but still has connections to a lack of control.
  • Why the practice in seeking first to understand before reacting is very challenging.
  • How you can challenge yourself to be the change you want to see in the world.

Read the post at Th-Ink Queerly on Medium:

The Need for Control and Belonging: The Zeitgeist of Social Media.”

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By Darren Stehle

Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.