Brent Knowles


I remember after our initial meeting I left with a confidence that you were the right person to work with. We spent a long time (longer than the allotted time I remember) discussing what my goals were and what challenges I’d faced in the past reaching them.

You talked about your approach and how you worked with your clients. You didn’t promise success but did promise you would partner with me to achieve success, to the extent that I was committed to success. It let me know that if I wanted real and sustained change I had to actually work at it outside of the coaching session. In the past, I thought my job was to show up for the session and success would follow. You made me see that I had a bigger role to play than that.

You encouraged me to remember why I was doing this work and to focus on that. The realization that my attitude was as important to reaching and sustaining my goals as the coaching itself was revolutionary. 

Whenever I’m discouraged by a bad week you’d mention where I’ve come from and how much progress I’ve already made. You have a confidence that I’ll succeed and that confidence is infectious. I’d see how you’d adapt to find ways to explain new habits, and to get into my head to figure out what was holding me back. Finally it’s you’re overall attitude. You don’t ever let me quit. You care about the whole person. 


Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.