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Personal Growth

A collection of 177 issues

Your Relationship with Your Mind (the Ego) and the Other

Changing the Structure of Self-Criticism The relationship you have with your mind determines how you feel about yourself. Have you ever noticed your self-talk when you are feeling bad about your actions or behaviours? Do you speak to yourself so critically, that if you were to speak in the same

Is Instagram to Blame for Gay Thirst Traps or Those Who Follow? LOP064

Reading my Twitter feed last week, I read a knee-jerk reaction to people with beautiful bodies posting pictures of themselves on Instagram, AKA "Thirst Traps": https://twitter.com/gaywonk/status/1098676404739289094 Hyperbolic language doesn’t help Putting all of Instagram and gay thirst traps into a single container

What Holds You Back vs What Do You Want More? LOP062

What’s the obstacle in your way? Is it someone, some event, or something? In every instance the only thing in your way is you. It’s up to you to take the necessary steps that will allow you to pass through the obstacle in your way. What are the

A Conscious Meditation on the Gap

Entering the space between all things. There is nothing but space between worry and fear. There is nothing but space between love and hate. There is nothing but space between acceptance and rejection. There is nothing but space… …between right and wrong, …between you and me, …between us and them,

The Cute Little Joys My Gay Boyfriend Brings – LOP060

Happy Valentine's Day, 2019! My boyfriend, my partner, my lover, brings me joy every day. Moments of joy is what keeps our love alive, strong, and enduring. It’s not about how much money either of us makes. It’s not about how often we have sex. And

Fear of "The Other" is Defence of the Ego – LOP059

The basic human fear of anyone else who is unlike us, too dissimilar, or who holds a different view of the world is the original binary. The original binary is the ego versus all else. The binary begins early in life when we learn our name; our identity. Who we

There Is No Space Between Us In The Gap – LOP053

Today’s episode takes the form of a meditative thought experiment. An awareness came through me this morning while moving in my fitness routine. My mind was open to the subconscious drip of what I had experienced and witnessed over the weekend. I had been contemplating – without attachment – how to

Why We Need to Engage Critics and Defuse Outrage – LOP051

Dealing with criticism versus personal attack When someone responds with a criticism or attack on my articles or podcast, that’s often a good sign. It means I’m pushing buttons and triggers. Often the critic’s outrage is something they needs help with, but they are dealing with their

How to Love Your Body as a Gay Man – LOP049

Think Differently with Healthier Thoughts Many gay men, myself included, have at some point tried to improve their physical appearance to attract other men. They have felt that, in order to be accepted, they needed to change their body to fit certain norms and the expectations of others. On one

Ray Rigoglioso, Gay Man of Wisdom – LOP048

Raymond L. Rigoglioso is the founder and executive director of Gay Men of Wisdom and author of Gay Men and The New Way Forward. Through his book, Ray has synthesized the body of literature that explores gay men’s nature and purpose and created a framework describing gay men’s