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Why Gay Shame Is Your Superpower

Why Gay Shame Is Your Superpower

Diversity is a gift of uniqueness and creativity When did you realize that you had to forgive yourself first, before anyone else, for your gay shame? Gay shame is a term used (and possibly coined) by Alan Downs, author of The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing up Gay in a Straight Man’s World. Downs worked as a therapist for gay men, many...

Furthering my Research into the Development of Queer Leadership

Research into the Development of Queer Leadership

An invitation to take part in my leadership questionnaire and have your say! If you’re a follower of my work on Th-Ink Queerly, you will know that I have been speaking about or making reference to “Queer Leadership” for the last several months. The idea of a Queer Leadership started as a seed in my mind when I took part in a 5-month coaching...

How Pete Buttigieg ‘Covers’ His Gay Identity

Pete Buttigieg

“Buttigieg is the first openly gay American to run for President. Only a few years ago, a gay Presidential hopeful was unthinkable. Yet, even in the midst of the backlash against LGBTQ equality created by the Trump administration, I feel underwhelmed by the prospect of a President Buttigieg and his significance as an openly gay politician...

LGBTQ Diversity Demonstrates that Dualities Are Artificial Constructs

LGBTQ Diversity Demonstrates that Dualities Are Artificial Constructs

Queer self-expression is yin & yang — TQ105 If we continue to argue against each other from completely opposite ends of the spectrum, one person firmly on the left and the other on the right — one person on the right side of the equation, the other on the wrong side — we will be forever stuck, unable to affect progressive, evolutionary change...

The Secret that Lives in the Closet – TQ104

The Secret that Lives in the Closet

How does internalized homophobia in gay men affect other LBTQ individuals? We are taught that we are other, that we don’t belong, that we can’t cross the gender divide. To do so is a form of weakness. Straight-acting gay men are struggling with self-acceptance and personal forgiveness, but they are trapped on the surface level of both physical...

Writing a New Narrative. The Power of Story to Save Humanity – LOP098

Writing a New Narrative - the Power of Story to Save Humanity

Live OUT your unique identity to create an LGBTQ leadership that makes a difference in the world. Recently I listened to The TED Interview, Yuval Noah Harari reveals the real dangers ahead in which Harari explains why it might feel like there’s no future for humanity. Serendipity led me to read, George Monbiot: how do we get out of this mess? and...

How Gay Men Imbue Culture With Beauty and Creativity – LOP042

Darren and Christiaan - Gay Men Imbue Culture With Beauty

As a gay man, when I tune into beauty I connect with the source that creates life. From that source comes my inspiration, that quality which allows me to create and bring value into the world. Following in the steps of the exploration I began in, Is Forgiveness of Homophobia a Gay Male Gift? LOP030, today I discuss (in very sensual terms) the...

Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.