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Fleeing Iraq as a Gay Man to Avoid Dying at the Hands of ISIS – LOP085

Fleeing Iraq as a Gay Man to Avoid Dying at the Hands of ISIS

Omar’s story and his journey to Canada as a refugee Imagine living in a country where, if you were found out to be gay by ISIS, you would be thrown off the tallest building around, while your family and friends were forced to watch. This is the story of Omar and two of the people who have been part of a very long process to bring him safely...

How to Control and Reduce The Toxic Stress of Homophobia – LOP070

Reduce The Toxic Stress of Homophobia – LOP070

Last week I was listening to Jonathan Van Ness’ podcast, Getting Curious (whom many of you might know from the Netflix show, Queer Eye). The episode, What is Toxic Stress & Why is She So Bad?, featured Dr. Caroline Leaf who’s a cognitive neuroscientist with a PhD in Communication Pathology and a BSc in Logopedics and Audiology, specializing in...

The Hateful Prejudice and Elitism that is Jordan Peterson – LOP056

Hateful Prejudice and Elitism that is Jordan Peterson

One of the promises made by the current Ontario PC government was that they would repeal the 2015 Ontario sex-ed curriculum installed by the former Liberal government if they won the election. They repealed the curriculum within months of winning the election in 2018 and temporarily replaced it with the 1998 curriculum. In August a student’s...

Words That Hurt: What You Say Matters – LOP047

Words That Hurt

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.” The intention behind words matters. How a word is used will affect the receiver in communication. Words can lift people up, but they can also hurt when they are intended to be prejudiced, demeaning, or hateful. What about taking a word at face value? Should all words be free to...

If Fear Is the Mind Killer What Is Its Opposite? LOP046

Fear Is the Mind Killer

The fewer fears we have the more open-minded and accepting we are of possibilities and variations in all aspects of life and humanity. When we are afraid of the wrath of an imaginary being in the sky, we will be fearful of anything we are told is unacceptable, against god, or an action that will deny you entry to heaven. Radical fundamentalism is...

How My Parents Influenced My Gay Male Identity – LOP040

Parents Influenced My Gay Male Identity

Our earliest influences that form who we become as adults start with our parents. While I am certainly not saying that my parents made me gay; how I was raised absolutely influenced my identity as a gay male. We looked up to our parents as children. We believed everything they told us to be true. They were our first leaders. We learned how to...

Forgiveness and Acceptance of Internalized Homophobia – LOP039

Self-Acceptance of Internalized Homophobia

Gay men can lead others in a new model of forgiveness through their own healing of gay shame and understanding of homophobia. We can evolve as men who understand and embrace the dichotomy of masculine and feminine energies. As gay men, we struggled with forgiveness when we first came out. We had to learn to forgive ourselves for the lies...

From Sissy Boys to Straight-Acting Gay Men

Sissy Boys to Straight-Acting Gay Men

Forgiveness and Self-Acceptance Starts with Understanding Our Gay Shame. Forgiveness allows you to live in the now, to have the self-worth to be able to let go of your past and all the transgressions you may have suffered – but not to condone or forget the actions of others. Gay men can lead humanity with a new model of forgiveness through their...

Is Forgiveness of Homophobia a Gay Male Gift? LOP030

Forgiveness of Homophobia a Gay Male Gift

In this episode, I speak about the challenge for gay men to forgive homophobia in their lives – be it from individuals, family, and society at large. The topic for the episode was inspired by a discussion of models of forgiveness in Raymond L. Rigolisoso’s ground-breaking book, “Gay Men and The New Way Forward” and from his coaching group...

Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.