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The Prejudice of PrEP: You’re Fucked if You Don’t Bareback – LOP093

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Bareback Privilege and the Demise of Risk-Aversion There’s a new kind of gay male sexual privilege, one that’s entering dangerous areas of health, disease control, and prejudice: gay men who are on PrEP and only have bareback sex. There Is Risk in Everything We Do “As renowned PrEP educator and marriage and family therapist, Damon Jacobs...

How Can You Use Your Difference to Make a Difference? LOP072

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As a gay man, what does it mean to live OUT the best of who you are? For me, it’s about recognizing if I’ve left any best parts of me in the closet, and which of those skills, desires, or talents I want to bring OUT to experience and enjoy. When I was a teenager growing up in the late 70s and early 80s, I fell in love with figure...

Is Instagram to Blame for Gay Thirst Traps or Those Who Follow? LOP064

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Reading my Twitter feed last week, I read this knee-jerk reaction to people with beautiful bodies posting pictures of themselves on Instagram, AKA “Thirst Traps”: Hyperbolic language doesn’t solve problems. Putting all of Instagram and gay thirst traps into a single container generally makes things worse. This is the path of blaming...

The Challenge to Lead as Out Gay Men – LOP063

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Recently I asked a question in an LGBTQ Professionals Group on Facebook. Here’s what I posted: I’m creating a small group mastermind for gay men to explore their unique and vital role in society, and to create meaningful, humanitarian change in the world. Currently, I’m creating the structure and preparing content for the program. But there is...

Gay Men, Resilience, and Our Chosen Family – LOP050

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It’s Story Time… It was 1999 and I had recently moved to Toronto. The day after I broke up with my boyfriend, my former ex from Ottawa moved in with us. This would have made the perfect backstory for a gay version of 80s sitcom, “Three’s Company”. Only this time, two exes become friends after not speaking to each other for over a year. Within 24...

Ray Rigoglioso, Gay Man of Wisdom – LOP048

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Raymond L. Rigoglioso is the founder and executive director of Gay Men of Wisdom and author of Gay Men and The New Way Forward. Through his book, Ray has synthesized the body of literature that explores gay men’s nature and purpose and created a framework describing gay men’s 14 distinct gifts. I’ve spoken about a few of these gifts in previous...

From Sissy Boys to Straight-Acting Gay Men

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Forgiveness and Self-Acceptance Starts with Understanding Our Gay Shame. Forgiveness allows you to live in the now, to have the self-worth to be able to let go of your past and all the transgressions you may have suffered – but not to condone or forget the actions of others. Gay men can lead humanity with a new model of forgiveness through their...

Is Forgiveness of Homophobia a Gay Male Gift? LOP030

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In this episode, I speak about the challenge for gay men to forgive homophobia in their lives – be it from individuals, family, and society at large. The topic for the episode was inspired by a discussion of models of forgiveness in Raymond L. Rigolisoso’s ground-breaking book, “Gay Men and The New Way Forward” and from his coaching group...

Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.