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Why Gay Shame Is Your Superpower

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Diversity is a gift of uniqueness and creativity When did you realize that you had to forgive yourself first, before anyone else, for your gay shame? Gay shame is a term used (and possibly coined) by Alan Downs, author of The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing up Gay in a Straight Man’s World. Downs worked as a therapist for gay men, many...

How to Think Critically, and for Yourself, in the Information Age – LOP094

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Social Media Constricts Communication and Activates the Fight Response. Recently, someone I follow and highly respect on Facebook, whose training programs I have paid to take part in, posted praise for an author and so-called intellectual for whom I have no respect – Jordan Peterson. In the post, my colleague praised both Peterson’s character and...

Remaking Manhood and #MeToo with Mark Greene – LOP082

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Mark Greene is an Emmy Winning animator, author, speaker, parent and Senior Editor at The Good Men Project. He is the founder of Remaking Manhood, a Facebook community promoting a wider-ranging conversation about masculinity. Mark’s articles on masculinity have been shared half a million times on social media with 20 million page views. He has...

Are You “Special”? Queer, Disabled, and Sex Workers – LOP079

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Why be normal when you can be different? How do you exist in the gay world that prioritizes the “normate gay” (white, cis-male, physically fit) when you are disabled? One way is to lead with humour. This is exactly what Ryan O’Connell does with his hilarious and powerful new show on Netflix, Special. O’Connell wrote the script and plays the main...

The Many Paths of Living OUT Leadership – LOP076

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We Are Living in Troubled Times. Many of us feel compelled to do something, to affect change, but we might feel powerless, disconnected, or unsure how a single person could change the world for the better. I’ve been working on creating and describing the foundations of personal leadership for myself, and by extension other men who identify as gay...

Destructive Emotions Are Related to Ignorance – LOP071

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Last week I was invited to speak with the students of my colleague, Jeffry Iovannone, in his class, Foundations of Social Justice, about the issues of sexism, masculinity, and the negative, angry responses to Gillette’s recent ad campaign, “The Best Men Can Be”. The class was asked to review my episode, Authentic Masculinity Is The Best A Man Can...

How Do We Effectively Respond To So Much Injustice? LOP007

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Responding to the Perpetrators who cause pain and injustice On a daily basis – if you read headline news – there appears to be so much pain and anguish in the world. Often our intrinsic, immediate response to those who make us feel this way is to lash out or bash back. Is outrage and / or physical violence an appropriate response, and if not, how...

Good Intentions Versus The Haters – LOP006

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If you do any kind of work in the public eye, whether you write, podcast, record videos, and so on, you need to be ready for the haters. And by the way, this includes posting to your personal Twitter or Facebook pages! You never know who’s lurking and ready to attack you for your views and opinions. Haters love to hate online. It’s easy – they can...

Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.