Straight-Acting Versus Being Your Authentic Gay Self

Shaun Proulx and Darren Stehle talk about straight acting gay men

Last week I was interviewed on the Shaun Proulx Show on Sirius XM Canada Talks 167.

Shaun and I talked in detail about why many gay men still call themselves “straight acting”, and my article that prompted the conversation, The Internalized Homophobia Of “Straight-Acting” Gay Men.

We see this form of “gender policing” all the time in online dating apps.

Guys with profiles that use heteronormative labels like “straight-acting” or “normal”, as well as internalized homophobic language like, “no fems”.

So how can you be authentically gay? The truth comes at the end of the interview, but I’ll tell you here:

Stop acting – just be you!


Many thanks to Shaun Proulx for allowing me to share this interview with you. Learn more about Shaun on his website. He’s also the publisher of TheGayGuideNetwork.com (where I am also the editor).

Think More Queerly Newsletter
Queer Thought Leadership from Coach Darren Stehle delivered to your email inbox every weekend. Never miss an article or podcast episode that could be the spark you need to help you use your queer uniqueness to make a difference in the world.