For as long as I can remember it’s always been a man and a woman.
For as long as I can remember it’s always been about god.
For as long as I can remember it’s always been about fitting in.
I have never had sex with a woman.
I never want to. I have known I was gay since I was five years old, but I didn’t know the words.
I don’t believe in god.
The only thing that might come close is having faith in my potential.
I have never fit in.
I’ve always been different in someway. A hyperactive, dyslexic, sickly child who knew he wasn’t like the other boys.
Some people kid themselves, believing there needs to be a morality for sex and sexuality.
That you can’t have sex unless you’re married. That you should only have sex with the opposite sex. They blissfully ignore the fact we are just as animal as other animals.
We are all creators be it of mind or procreation.
We imagine and put our thoughts into action, constructing ideas into concrete potential. We are the creators. We are the dreamers of the dream. There is no heteronormative construction in the sky watching over us.
The status quo is not singular.
The status quo is like a set of Russian dolls. One doll, one box fitting into another, into another, and into another. One dogma fitting into a religion, fitting into a social class, fitting into a skin colour. Each of those walls confine, define, and constrict our potential and humanity.
For all these reasons,
I will continue to shove my queer agenda in people’s faces.
I will continue to talk about sex. About hot gay sex and man-on-man love. I will talk about my gay/queer identity. I will challenge the belief in god.
Because what has always been, does not have to continue.
Life, from a Darwinian perspective, is about evolution. We cannot see the endpoint, but we know things will continue to change.
The challenge for humanity is that people are afraid.
People are afraid of change because governments and religion are telling them that change is bad. Because they are afraid to have their own thoughts. Because anything outside of their boxed-in world is different, other, and queer.
Fucking right I’m queer!
I will continue to speak my truth, tell my stories, and challenge the status quo. We deserve better. Not just queers, but every single human being.
The truth is that no matter how many status quo boxes we break down, we will always be in a box.
The question is, will you accept the possibility of other boxes?
Will you allow other people to live their lives as individuals? As unique and free to express themselves, as you would expect for yourself?
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