How to Stop Red-Lining Into the Negative and Destructive Emotions You Want to Avoid

Learn how to create emotional recipes for how you want to feel — a Personal Evolution Process free webinar.

Have you ever been minding your own business, when suddenly someone or something happens, and you fly off the handle into the emotional red zone? It could show up as upset, frustration, sadness, anger, shame, or rage. Whatever the feeling, these are emotional states most of us would like to avoid, or at least have better control over.

How often, or how easily, do you experience red zone emotional states like the ones mentioned above? Do you experience those feelings almost immediately, at the flick of a switch, or does it take you some time to move from feeling great into upset, calm into angry, or happy into sad?

Are you the kind of person people call hot-headed? Are you aware that you overreact or are easily triggered, only to regret your lack of control after the fact? If you answered yes to any of those questions, I have a strategy to help you create awareness and control over red-lining into undesired emotional states.

Create Emotional Recipes for How You Want to Feel — A Personal Evolution Process.

This process puts the expression, “Don’t worry, be happy” on notice. It’s a nice idea, but to be happy, or to feel emotions that embody and elevate happiness, we can’t just not worry. We must actively practice managing our emotions to be and to feel at our very best. So, in this case, the better expression is: “Practice makes for improvement.”

You have far more control over how you want to feel than you might realize. What’s missing and needed from the equation is one’s active and conscientious preparedness, as well as awareness of the factors that fuel your undesired emotions. The longer it takes for you to cross over into the red zone, the better. That simply means you are well aware of the emotional states you prefer to avoid, and you have some strategies in place to keep your cool.

However, there’s always that one trigger that seems to trip you up, or maybe you’re overtired, had an awful day, and you and your partner are having a disagreement. All it takes is one too many variables piled on top of the other. When you are not feeling your best, if you are moving into the warning zone and if you don’t catch yourself in time, it will be too late.

When you are aware of the emotions you want to avoid feeling and how to pull yourself back from going into the red zone, you can use that same process to experience more of the emotional states you do want.

When you know the list of ingredients for how you want to feel, you can create a method to “cook” the emotional states you most want.

The metaphor of a recipe helps make sense of this Personal Evolution Process. For example, if you want to bake bread, you’re going to need a variety of ingredients on hand as well as a method that explains how to ‘manipulate’ each ingredient and in what order.

Ready to get cooking and create your primary emotional recipes?

We can't be masters of our thoughts, feelings, actions, and behaviours if we keep getting results that we don't want, yet we don't understand why. Self-awareness and personal responsibility require work. No one else can do that work but you, yet you don't have to do it alone if you're struggling or don’t know how.

If you’re tired of over-reacting or experiencing undesirable emotions, reserve your spot for my free Emotional Recipes Personal Evolution Process Webinar, happening on Thursday, July 8th, 2021 at 12 PM EST (noon). I will teach you how to create emotional recipes to feel more of the empowering and joyful emotions that are most important to you.

6 Questions to Identify Your Red-Line Emotions

To get the most out of the live webinar, consider and answer the questions below. They are the perfect primer for what to expect and will make it easier for you to complete the practices that I will teach during the webinar.

1. What is the single biggest struggle, challenge, or problem in your life that also causes you the greatest emotional stress?
2. What are the top 1-3 most stressful emotions associated with that challenge or problem?
3. Describe each one of those stressful emotions in detail.
4. What strategies are you currently using to minimize, control, or avoid those emotions?
5. What are the polar opposites of those stressful emotions or feelings? For now, call these positive feelings or emotions.
6. In a few sentences, what would your day-to-day life be like if you more regularly experienced those ‘positive’ emotions?
   

How to Create Emotional Recipes for How You Want to Feel — A Personal Evolution Process Webinar

If you’re tired of losing your cool or feeling negative, even harmful emotions, sign up for this live and interactive webinar. I will teach you effective strategies to manage and control the emotional states you don’t want so that you can feel empowered and in control more often.

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