CategoryPersonal Growth

Love the Journey and the Destination – LOP027

Love the Journey and the Destination

Have you hard the expression, “You need to fall in love with the process, not the goal”. That’s only partially correct. While it’s highly motivating to fall in love with the process, you never want to be attached to the goal. You don’t want to be emotionally dependant upon the goal. You want to fall in love with the doing, the taking action...

Why Do We Fear Future Success? LOP026

Why Do We Fear Future Success

Imagine that you recently accomplished a really big goal. I’m talking the big-kahuna, significant life goal: a major promotion at work; a $30,000 sales target reached; you’ve moved into your dream home; you lost over 20 pounds of body fat; or whatever you have in mind as a meaningful, impactful goal. Now that you find yourself in a much better...

Why You Deserve What You Are Worth – LOP025

You Deserve What You Are Worth

Have you ever said (or heard others say) something like, “Is that for me? Oh, you shouldn’t have!” Or, “I don’t deserve this.” Too often I hear this from those of us who serve others in capacities like coaching, personal training, massage, teaching, blogging, and so on. For some reason we depreciate ourselves, as if we shouldn’t be proud...

How to Finally Achieve Your Goals and Live Your Dream Life – LOP024

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How to ADD to Your Life If you’re excited by every new idea, jumping from one project to the next, you’ll never get what you want. Instead, the outcome will be many small projects, some completed, and others abandoned; or jumping one job to another. You will be no closer to achieving your goals and creating the life of your dreams...

Divining the Depths of the Well of Self-Awareness

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The following is a meditative, flow-of-consciousness writing that I did as part of my morning journal practice. To Live OUT the Best of Who You Are, you begin witn an investigation into your identity to un-closet the stories of who you are. Once you begin to see the plot lines of your unique story, you can decide which ones have served you, which...

How to Let Go of People’s Opinions and Gain Personal Insight – LOP022

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ADD To Your Life How many times have you sought out someone’s opinion, or wanted someone to agree with you? Maybe you didn’t know how to resolve a difficult situation and you asked what they thought. Or perhaps you were working to solve a problem and you wanted someone to tell you that you were doing the right thing. The truth is that other...

Why the Stories of Your Past Are Not Who You Are – LOP020

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For many years I held onto my past. I thought about people who made me feel bad and unworthy. I reacted to how heteronormative culture boxed me in and made me feel shame for being a gay man. I felt like a loser graduating high school with a 51% average. My past became my identity and I was stuck in the drama of that tired old story. What actions...

Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.