CategoryPersonal Growth

Inspiration Comes from Within But Support Comes from Other Minds

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An invitation to ‘play’ in my Queer Creatives Mastermind Program A few weeks ago I wrote a post titled, Why the World Needs Queer Creativity Now More Than Ever. I started that post with a quote, which is worth repeating: “If you are on a mission to discover what you have to offer, and to bring it out into the world, every moment...

My 365-Day Queer Publishing Challenge for 2020

365-Day Queer Publishing Challenge

In the last couple of weeks, I’ve spent a lot of time looking at how I’ve worked in the past year and how I want to work in 2020, specifically concerning the time of day when I do the “best work”, and what I want to accomplish. I’ve broken things down and have created what I hope is a highly efficient daily schedule for 2020. That preparation...

Have You Left The Best Parts Of You In The Closet?

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There are two examples from my life when I was living fully out, gay and proud, and expressing who I was – other than now when I feel like I’m all gay all the time! 🙂 In retrospect, within the limitations of the status quo at those times, I came out “too much and too far.” The outside influences and opinions of other people forced parts of me back...

These Two Simple Words Will Make Your New Habits Stick – LOP090

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Why Saying “I Can’t” or “No” Won’t Help Change Your Behaviour Some time ago I was following up with a coaching client about his challenge of saying “Yes” to too many opportunities. He was getting bogged down in commitments which were distracting from what was most important in his life and career. He felt very uncomfortable saying “no”...

Feeling Sorry for Yourself? How to Overcome that Problem – LOP087

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One morning about four years ago I was feeling sorry for myself. I had been wallowing in self pity and I suddenly “woke up” and decided to journal about what I was feeling so that I could change my emotional state. What was I feeling sorry about? I was feeling sorry for myself that I was tired, emotionally drained, that I was working so hard, that...

The Many Paths of Living OUT Leadership – LOP076

The Many Paths of Living OUT Leadership – LOP076

We Are Living in Troubled Times. Many of us feel compelled to do something, to affect change, but we might feel powerless, disconnected, or unsure how a single person could change the world for the better. I’ve been working on creating and describing the foundations of personal leadership for myself, and by extension other men who identify as gay...

“Are Gay Men REALLY Different?”

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What’s right with gay men. Recently, YouTube superstar, Davey Wavey released the video, “Are Gay Men REALLY Different?”, which he made for Gay Men of Wisdom. I’ve referenced this program/organization and the book, “Gay Men And The New Way Forward” by Raymond Rigoglioso in many episodes of the Living OUT Podcast. The 5-month...

How to Control and Reduce The Toxic Stress of Homophobia – LOP070

Reduce The Toxic Stress of Homophobia – LOP070

Last week I was listening to Jonathan Van Ness’ podcast, Getting Curious (whom many of you might know from the Netflix show, Queer Eye). The episode, What is Toxic Stress & Why is She So Bad?, featured Dr. Caroline Leaf who’s a cognitive neuroscientist with a PhD in Communication Pathology and a BSc in Logopedics and Audiology, specializing in...

Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.