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Seizures, Tears, and Chasing Thieves: Getting Certainty In Overwhelming Times

Seizures, Tears, and Chasing Thieves - Getting Certainty In Overwhelming Times

COVID-19 reveals how some things change while others become more apparent In this episode, I share a few stories about two incidents that I’ve been a part of over the last few weeks that have had a profound impact on my understanding and observations of human behaviour during the COVID-19 pandemic. The biggest challenge lately has been what some...

What’s Out of Your Control, Right Now?

What's out of your control

Part 1 of my “How to Create Trust & Certainty” process. I’m excited to announce that I have uploaded the first part of my “How to Create Trust & Certainty in Challenging Times” process to my Queer Leadership group on Facebook. I’ve prepared a detailed video instruction along with a PDF worksheet that will guide you...

How Can We Avoid Creating the Very Thing We Are Fighting Against?

Avoid Creating the Thing We Are Fighting Against

It’s relatively easy to be a prolific writer or podcaster if you keep your topics general, or if you’re always on the defensive and speak to polarizing subjects. But when it comes to a thoughtful response, one that comes from a place of perfect equanimity, such wisdom is rare because of the required emotional labour and humility.  How...

How to Think Critically, and for Yourself, in the Information Age – LOP094

How to Think Critically

Social Media Constricts Communication and Activates the Fight Response. Recently, someone I follow and highly respect on Facebook, whose training programs I have paid to take part in, posted praise for an author and so-called intellectual for whom I have no respect – Jordan Peterson. In the post, my colleague praised both Peterson’s character and...

The Prejudice of PrEP: You’re Fucked if You Don’t Bareback – LOP093

The Prejudice of PrEP

Bareback Privilege and the Demise of Risk-Aversion There’s a new kind of gay male sexual privilege, one that’s entering dangerous areas of health, disease control, and prejudice: gay men who are on PrEP and only have bareback sex. There Is Risk in Everything We Do “As renowned PrEP educator and marriage and family therapist, Damon Jacobs...

What’s in a Name? The Importance of Being Queer – LOP088

The Importance of Being Queer

In the last episode, I mentioned I was considering changing the name of the Living OUT Podcast. I’m happy to say that Living OUT is the right name for my podcast. This all has to do with my core message. I’m about challenging the status quo – both other people’s beliefs, as well as my own. I help people use their difference to make a difference. I...

Is Instagram to Blame for Gay Thirst Traps or Those Who Follow? LOP064

Instagram to Blame for Gay Thirst Traps or Those Who Follow

Reading my Twitter feed last week, I read this knee-jerk reaction to people with beautiful bodies posting pictures of themselves on Instagram, AKA “Thirst Traps”: Hyperbolic language doesn’t solve problems. Putting all of Instagram and gay thirst traps into a single container generally makes things worse. This is the path of blaming...

What Are We Striving For — As Individuals and as a Human Collective?

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Some time ago I watched the third season of Netflix’s Chef’s Table. One of the featured chefs, Jeong Kwan, is a Buddhist monk who lives in Korea and is world-renowned for her vegetarian cooking. Everything she does is a mediation of sorts. Her day is a cycle of meditation and prayer, planting and harvesting, long-term food preparation (like...

Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.