CategoryCoaching

4 Questions to Determine What You Need to Let Go Of

4 Questions to Determine What You Need to Most Let Go Of

When you prioritize what’s most important, instead of what needs to get done, you reduce frustration and increase joy. Recently, I had a conversation with a friend and colleague. We got to talking about our work schedules and he told me that he’s changing how he works during the week. He will complete all client work and administration on Mondays...

Seizures, Tears, and Chasing Thieves: Getting Certainty In Overwhelming Times

Seizures, Tears, and Chasing Thieves - Getting Certainty In Overwhelming Times

COVID-19 reveals how some things change while others become more apparent In this episode, I share a few stories about two incidents that I’ve been a part of over the last few weeks that have had a profound impact on my understanding and observations of human behaviour during the COVID-19 pandemic. The biggest challenge lately has been what some...

Inspiration Comes from Within But Support Comes from Other Minds

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An invitation to ‘play’ in my Queer Creatives Mastermind Program A few weeks ago I wrote a post titled, Why the World Needs Queer Creativity Now More Than Ever. I started that post with a quote, which is worth repeating: “If you are on a mission to discover what you have to offer, and to bring it out into the world, every moment...

My Interview on Gay Radio Show, Rainbow Country – LOP097

Rainbow Country Interview

Mark Tara is an LGBT Content Creator, Recording Artist, and the Creator & Host of the Gay radio show, Rainbow Country 🌈, heard every Tuesday from 11pm-1am on CIUT 89.5FM in Toronto. Mark invited me on the show to talk about coaching, how I became a coach, and why I choose to offer my Life Coaching primarily to GBT men. We also talk about my...

These Two Simple Words Will Make Your New Habits Stick – LOP090

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Why Saying “I Can’t” or “No” Won’t Help Change Your Behaviour Some time ago I was following up with a coaching client about his challenge of saying “Yes” to too many opportunities. He was getting bogged down in commitments which were distracting from what was most important in his life and career. He felt very uncomfortable saying “no”...

Feeling Sorry for Yourself? How to Overcome that Problem – LOP087

Feeling Sorry for Yourself

One morning about four years ago I was feeling sorry for myself. I had been wallowing in self pity and I suddenly “woke up” and decided to journal about what I was feeling so that I could change my emotional state. What was I feeling sorry about? I was feeling sorry for myself that I was tired, emotionally drained, that I was working so hard, that...

Vulnerability: How Gay Men Teach the Cleansing of Shame – LOP080

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Brene Brown is considered an expert in her research on vulnerability and shame. What she teaches in her program, The Power of Vulnerability provides a powerful foundation to how we, as gay men and LGBTQ people, can use our difference to make a difference. Vulnerability helps us deal with our own gay shame, and in the process lead others in society...

We Wait for Nothing or We Create Something – LOP074

We Wait for Nothing or We Create Something – LOP074

There is no in-between. Life is ephemeral. Everything is temporary. We only have this moment now, so if you are not consciously doing something that serves you or makes you happy, how does waiting serve you? When challenging things happen – and they will – ask yourself, “What’s the opportunity here?”Rich Litvin A Coaching Client Story. One...

How to Manifest Your Dreams When They Seem Impossible – LOP045

Manifest Your Dreams

Now is the perfect time to review the events of this past year. What went well for you? What were your wins, moments you were most proud of, goals that you accomplished, etc.? What did you struggle with and why? What lessons can be learned from your problems and what didn’t work out as planned? This is the first step in my ADD Coaching Method...

How to Discover Your True Purpose in Life – LOP044

Discover Your True Purpose

Over the last few episodes of the Living OUT Podcast, I’ve been discussing the unique gifts that gay men bring to the world. During this process I’ve discovered more about my true purpose – not in the sense that I didn’t know what it was, but as we evolve and learn more about who we are, our purpose may change concurrently. With the coming new...

Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.