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A Conscious Meditation on the Gap

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Entering the space between all things. There is nothing but space between worry and fear. There is nothing but space between love and hate. There is nothing but space between acceptance and rejection. There is nothing but space… …between right and wrong, …between you and me, …between us and them, …between male and female, or masculine...

From Sissy Boys to Straight-Acting Gay Men

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Forgiveness and Self-Acceptance Starts with Understanding Our Gay Shame. Forgiveness allows you to live in the now, to have the self-worth to be able to let go of your past and all the transgressions you may have suffered – but not to condone or forget the actions of others. Gay men can lead humanity with a new model of forgiveness through their...

When You Purge What Distracts You, You Reconnect with Your Values

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Last week I was listening to and episode of the “Waking Up” podcast by Sam Harris. He was speaking with with New York Times bestselling author, Johann Hari about the challenges of addiction and depression, and the increased use of prescribed anti-depressants, opioids, and illegal drug use. They discussed why people are so easily angry online...

If You’re Missing this ONE Thing Then You’ll Fail at Achieving Your Goals

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Want to achieve a goal that really means something to you? Want to accomplish something that will make all the difference in your life or the lives of others? How do you get started? Do you write out a single goal with a deadline and hope for the best? This used to be my way of thinking (I’m sure many people have experienced the same thing):...

If You Focus on Meaningful Work You Will Achieve Personal Success

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You have to know what you want to get what you want. When you know what you want to accomplish in life, you can establish systems and structures that will support accomplishing your goals. There’s this little challenge though, and it’s called distraction. If you’re easily excited by every new idea, jumping from one project to the next...

Divining the Depths of the Well of Self-Awareness

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The following is a meditative, flow-of-consciousness writing that I did as part of my morning journal practice. To Live OUT the Best of Who You Are, you begin witn an investigation into your identity to un-closet the stories of who you are. Once you begin to see the plot lines of your unique story, you can decide which ones have served you, which...

What Is Your Calling in Life?

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This was my life over a year ago (mid 2017), trying to find a way out of personal training and health coaching. This post is inspired by a journal entry  I wrote as a result of using my own, ADD Method: Get Clarity Process. The problems I was struggling at that time were: how to position myself as a life coach, and; knowing my unique and...

I woke from the most wonderful dream…

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What do you most want to ADD to your life? It was more of a lucid dream, the kind you have just before waking up when you actually realize you’re dreaming In my dream, I got out of bed and I walked downstairs. I was looking for our dog. I went to his bed and laid on my side. He appeared from behind me, did a few circles, and then cuddled...

How We Treat Each Other Reflects Who We Are

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Values, communication, and respect in the dark ages of Trump. What’s wrong in the world? What’s wrong is that I’m seeing far too many issues with people who, Seem to have a god-complex;Think they’re right, and you’re wrong (discussion not optional), and;Seem to fight only for what they believe in, ignoring logic...

The ADD to Your Life Methodology: Assess – Dream – Design

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What best parts of you have you left in the closet? As a gay man there were things I wanted to do during my adolescence that I hid away from view. I wasn’t out and was struggling to accept myself for who I was years before declaring, “I’m gay”. I wanted to take gymnastics or try out for dance, but that would have definitively labelled me as “gay”...

Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.