Love the Journey and the Destination – LOP027

Have you hard the expression, “You need to fall in love with the process, not the goal”. That’s only partially correct. While it’s highly motivating to fall in love with the process, you never want to be attached to the goal. You don’t want to be emotionally dependant upon the goal. You want to fall […]

Why Do We Fear Future Success? LOP026

Pretend that you recently accomplished a really big goal. I’m talking the big-kahuna, significant life goal: a major promotion at work; a $30,000 sales target reached; you’ve moved into your dream home; you lost over 20 pounds of body fat; or whatever you have in mind as a meaningful, impactful goal. Now that you find […]

Why You Deserve What You Are Worth – LOP025

Have you ever said (or heard others say) something like, “Is that for me? Oh, you shouldn’t have!” Or, “I don’t deserve this.” Too often I hear this from those of us who serve others in capacities like coaching, personal training, massage, teaching, blogging, and so on. For some reason we depreciate ourselves, as if we shouldn’t […]

If You Focus on Meaningful Work You Will Achieve Personal Success

You have to know what you want to get what you want. When you know what you want to accomplish in life, you can establish systems and structures that will support accomplishing your goals. There’s this little challenge though, and it’s called distraction. If you’re easily excited by every new idea, jumping from one project […]

Divining the Depths of the Well of Self-Awareness

The following is a meditative, flow-of-consciousness writing that I did as part of my morning journal practice. To Live OUT the Best of Who You Are, you begin witn an investigation into your identity to un-closet the stories of who you are. Once you begin to see the plot lines of your unique story, you […]

Why the Stories of Your Past Are Not Who You Are – LOP020

For many years I held onto my past. I thought about people who made me feel bad and unworthy. I reacted to how heteronormative culture boxed me in and made me feel shame for being a gay man. I felt like a loser graduating high school with a 51% average. My past became my identity […]