Why I’m Not Good Enough: My Dirty Gay Secret


There’s a lot of gay shame that runs as an undercurrent in my life. This morning I watched a video by coach Dax Moy. He was talking about the difference between guilt and shame. Guilt is how you feel about what you did or didn’t do. Shame is how you feel about who you are or who you are not. A light clicked on, illuminating something that’s been a...

My Reasons For (Not) Working With Gay Men


“First I was afraid, I was petrified…” ~ Gloria Gaynor Last week I had a conversation with a coach who helped me get clear on who I work with. Essentially she helped me come out. Again. “Why don’t you work with gay men, Darren?” This question has come up with a few coaches I’ve worked with on my business over the years. For some reason...

Who Believes in You More Than You Do?


The other day I wrote a post on my medium publication, Do You Celebrate or Neglect Your Wins? The idea for the post came from a journal entry a year ago. I was caught up in the “doing of tasks”, stressed about what was going on in my business, and I totally glossed over a win I had on the day. I remember the day because of how stressful...

Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.