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Seizures, Tears, and Chasing Thieves: Getting Certainty In Overwhelming Times

Seizures, Tears, and Chasing Thieves - Getting Certainty In Overwhelming Times

COVID-19 reveals how some things change while others become more apparent In this episode, I share a few stories about two incidents that I’ve been a part of over the last few weeks that have had a profound impact on my understanding and observations of human behaviour during the COVID-19 pandemic. The biggest challenge lately has been what some...

How to Create Trust and Certainty in Challenging Times

How to Create Trust and Certainty in Challenging Times

The Covid-19 pandemic is social disruption like we’ve never seen before The Covid-19 Pandemic is challenging all of us to remain calm, to not slide into doubt, fear, and the darkness of depression, or worse, to lash out in frustration, anger, and desperation. You might even say, “Well, Darren, how could we not?” While some of us are more...

Owning the Problem Is the Nature of Personal Responsibility

Owning-the-Problem-Nature-of-Personal-Responsibility

If we don’t work on ourselves to understand our true nature, we will never understand human nature in others Personal responsibility is the practice of managing our ego and recognizing that not doing so is a lack of self-awareness, and thus limiting of one’s personal growth and social well-being. When you realize that the ego prefers excuses as a...

Timeless Wisdom in a Pandemic: Give Up the Need for Control

GIVE UP THE NEED FOR CONTROL

A Meditation on Verse 20 of the “Tao Te Ching” — what it can tell us about the COVID-19 Pandemic Do you want to improve the world?I don’t think it can be done. The world is sacred.It can’t be improved.If you tamper with it, you’ll ruin it.If you treat it like an object, you’ll lose it. There is a time for being ahead,a time for being...

If Ever There Were a Time to Tell the Truth…

If Ever There Were a Time to Tell the Truth

Why the COVID-19 pandemic lockdown is the pivotal moment to choose to be free by discerning your truth. This is a powerful thought experiment prompt that could reveal far more about who you are, now during the COVID-19 pandemic and lockdown than at any other time. “If ever there were a time to tell the truth, what do I need to say? Who do I...

Why Gay Shame Is Your Superpower

Why Gay Shame Is Your Superpower

Diversity is a gift of uniqueness and creativity When did you realize that you had to forgive yourself first, before anyone else, for your gay shame? Gay shame is a term used (and possibly coined) by Alan Downs, author of The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing up Gay in a Straight Man’s World. Downs worked as a therapist for gay men, many...

HIV/AIDS in Contrast with the COVID-19 Pandemic — Lessons in History

COVID-19 HIV-AIDS Lessons from the Past

Think Queerly Podcast Leadership Discussion — TQ125 EPISODE SUMMARY What are the similarities and differences between the HIV and COVID-19 pandemics? In what ways are they comparable? Might it be offensive or “triggering” to those who survived the HIV/AIDS pandemic to compare COVID-19 to this period in time? EPISODE NOTES In this Think Queerly...

Canadian Gay Conversion Therapy Survivor, Matt Ashcroft

Canadian Gay Conversion Therapy Survivor, Matt Ashcroft

A Think Queerly Leadership Interview — TQ123 “Conversion therapy is the false belief that diverse sexual orientations, gender identities or gender expressions are illnesses that can be cured through “treatment”. This backwards belief is an abusive and harmful practice that preys on the LGBTQ2+ community, and in particular LGBTQ2+ children...

What’s Out of Your Control, Right Now?

What's out of your control

Part 1 of my “How to Create Trust & Certainty” process. I’m excited to announce that I have uploaded the first part of my “How to Create Trust & Certainty in Challenging Times” process to my Queer Leadership group on Facebook. I’ve prepared a detailed video instruction along with a PDF worksheet that will guide you...

Darren is a leadership coach in Toronto, Canada who helps his clients to connect and embrace their uniqueness and freely create the life they want. He writes and podcasts regularly about Queer Leadership.