Have you ever gone left (or right) instead of forward? Have you looked back at the impressions of your past and wondered how you got off track, or why you didn’t succeed? Have you felt you knew your life purpose,… Read More »When You Discover Your Purpose But Can’t Do Anything About It
There’s a lot of gay shame that runs as an undercurrent in my life.
This morning I watched a video by coach Dax Moy. He was talking about the difference between guilt and shame.
- Guilt is how you feel about what you did or didn’t do.
- Shame is how you feel about who you are or who you are not.
A light clicked on, illuminating something that’s been a challenge for me all my life.
I have shame around becoming successful.
What? But the success I envision for myself hasn’t happened yet.
“First I was afraid, I was petrified…”
~ Gloria Gaynor
Last week I had a conversation with a coach who helped me get clear on who I work with.
Essentially she helped me come out.
“Why don’t you work with gay men, Darren?”
This question has come up with a few coaches I’ve worked with on my business over the years.
For some reason I thought I shouldn’t box myself in.
The other day I wrote a post on my medium publication, Do You Celebrate or Neglect Your Wins?
The idea for the post came from a journal entry a year ago. I was caught up in the “doing of tasks”, stressed about what was going on in my business, and I totally glossed over a win I had on the day.
I remember the day because of how stressful it was.
I had been in a meeting that was very uncomfortable for everybody involved. The person directing the meeting made some very unsettling statements. I felt like cattle, like a piece of meat required to bring in money to the organization. There was nothing shared about worth or value as a way to strengthen the workplace.