Why I’m Not Good Enough - My Dirty Gay Secret

Why I’m Not Good Enough: My Dirty Gay Secret

There’s a lot of gay shame that runs as an undercurrent in my life.

This morning I watched a video by coach Dax Moy. He was talking about the difference between guilt and shame.

  • Guilt is how you feel about what you did or didn’t do.
  • Shame is how you feel about who you are or who you are not.

A light clicked on, illuminating something that’s been a challenge for me all my life.

I have shame around becoming successful.

What? But the success I envision for myself hasn’t happened yet.

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My Reasons For (Not) Working With Gay Men

My Reasons For (Not) Working With Gay Men

“First I was afraid, I was petrified…”

~ Gloria Gaynor

Last week I had a conversation with a coach who helped me get clear on who I work with.

Essentially she helped me come out.

Again.

“Why don’t you work with gay men, Darren?”

This question has come up with a few coaches I’ve worked with on my business over the years.

For some reason I thought I shouldn’t box myself in.

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Who Believes in You More Than You Do

Who Believes in You More Than You Do?

The other day I wrote a post on my medium publication, Do You Celebrate or Neglect Your Wins?

The idea for the post came from a journal entry a year ago. I was caught up in the “doing of tasks”, stressed about what was going on in my business, and I totally glossed over a win I had on the day.

I remember the day because of how stressful it was.

I had been in a meeting that was very uncomfortable for everybody involved. The person directing the meeting made some very unsettling statements. I felt like cattle, like a piece of meat required to bring in money to the organization. There was nothing shared about worth or value as a way to strengthen the workplace.

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