Celebrate When You Feel Stuck In Life: It Only Means One Thing

Think of being stuck in life like being stalled in an elevator. You pressed the button for your desired floor/destination. Now you stand and wait. There is no other option. Without warning, the elevator comes to a complete stop between floors. The battery in your cell phone is dead. You can’t do anything about the […]

Why Is It So Hard To Be Authentic?

Being authentic in a status quo world is easier said than done. Why is this such a big deal, to be authentic, and what does it mean? Here’s the Oxford dictionary definition of authentic, “of undisputed origin and not a copy; genuine.“ The etymology of authentic is from the late Latin, authenticus, meaning ‘principal, genuine.’ Being […]

What Do You Want To Do Differently In 2018 As A Gay Man?

It’s December 27, 2017. Just a few days away from people making their New Year’s resolutions. You’ve probably seen articles like these showing up on Facebook and Twitter: How to set goals for 2018. Use this process to make a killing in 2018. You shouldn’t be planning for 2018, you should be planning for 2019 […]

Why I’m Not Good Enough: My Dirty Gay Secret

There’s a lot of gay shame that runs as an undercurrent in my life. This morning I watched a video by coach Dax Moy. He was talking about the difference between guilt and shame. Guilt is how you feel about what you did or didn’t do. Shame is how you feel about who you are […]

My Reasons For (Not) Working With Gay Men

“First I was afraid, I was petrified…” ~ Gloria Gaynor Last week I had a conversation with a coach who helped me get clear on who I work with. Essentially she helped me come out. Again. “Why don’t you work with gay men, Darren?” This question has come up with a few coaches I’ve worked with on […]

Who Believes in You More Than You Do?

The other day I wrote a post on my medium publication, Do You Celebrate or Neglect Your Wins? The idea for the post came from a journal entry a year ago. I was caught up in the “doing of tasks”, stressed about what was going on in my business, and I totally glossed over a […]