About Darren & Living OUT

This is a place for people to discover how Live OUT the best of who they are.

If you’ve kept the best parts of you in the closet, if you feel blocked by your problems, or if you want to live out your true purpose, you’ve come to the right place. As you read the blog and listen to the Living OUT Podcast you’ll discover my approach and strategies designed to ADD to Your Life

I’m Darren Stehle (pronounced “steel”).

Darren and Christiaan
Me (on the right) and Christiaan.

Being gay is not all that I am, but for much of my life I’ve struggled to different degrees with being a completely self-accepting gay man. 

We are conditioned as gay men to fit in, act normal, and be just like everyone else. That affects how we perceive the world and how we feel about ourselves. The problem with trying to fit in is that that we will have to lock away parts of who we are – our mannerisms, character traits, things we like to talk about, etc. Holding parts of yourself back is not living out the best of who you are.

My background is as diverse as it is queer. 

After high school I participated in a youth volunteer program, backpacked across Europe for four month, studied chef training for a year, and then pursued a Master’s of German language and linguistics. For 10 years I worked at Pink Triangle Press, managing their gay men’s tele-personals system (long before dating apps existed). I left to work as a health and fitness coach for over 15 years. In early 2016 I began my work as a coach.

I coach my clients to think outside the box and create possibilities to live out the best of who they are.

I live in Toronto, Canada, with my partner, Christiaan. 


Discover more…

Subscribe to The Living OUT Podcast on iTunes or your favourite player.

Enjoy one of my courses in personal productivity.

Read and follow my LGBTQ+ publication on Medium, Th-Ink Queerly.

Be well!