This is a place for people to discover how Live OUT the best of who they are.

If you’ve left the best parts of you in the closet (for whatever reason), if you’re feeling stuck or held back by your problems or challenges, or if you’re seeking clarity on how to accomplish your mission in life, then you’ve come to the right place.

As you read the blog and listen to the Living OUT Podcast you’ll discover strategies and tools designed to help you to ADD to Your Life. Knowing how you got to where you are now in life is just as important as the steps you take in the present moment to design your life and accomplish your dreams.

Hi, I’m Darren Stehle (pronounced “steel”).

Darren and Christiaan
Me (on the right) and Christiaan.

Being gay is not all that I am, but for most of my life I’ve struggled to different degrees with being a fully out, completely self-accepting gay man. The closet is a powerful container and I was trapped inside until I came out when I was 18. The truth is that we never stop coming out – it’s a life-long process.

We are conditioned as gay men to fit in, to act normal, and to be just like everyone else. That affects how we perceive the world and how we feel about ourselves.

The problem with trying to fit in is that that we will have to lock away parts of who we are – our mannerisms, character traits, things we like to talk about, etc. Holding parts of yourself back is not living out the best of who you are.

My background is as diverse as it is queer. After high school I participated in a youth volunteer program, backpacked across Europe for four month, studied chef training for a year, and then worked on a Master’s of German language and linguistics.

For 10 years I worked with Pink Triangle Press, managing their gay men’s tele-personals system (long before dating apps existed). I left to as a health and fitness coaching for 15+ years. In early 2016 I began the transition fitness to my work now as a Possibilities Coach

I coach my clients to think outside the box and create possibilities to live out the best of who they are already are.

I live in Toronto, Canada, with my partner, Christiaan. 


Live OUT What’s Possible!

Get inspired, think outside the box, and create possibilities to live out the best of who you are.

More Ways to Keep in Touch:

Listen and subscribe to The Living OUT Podcast on iTunes or click here to follow on your favourite player.

Enjoy one of my courses in personal productivity on Teachable.

Read and follow my LGBTQ+ Medium publication, Th-Ink Queerly.

Be well!

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