Do you ever feel like,

  • You’re hiding the best parts of who you in the closet?
  • You want to make a difference in the world but you don’t know how?
  • You’re bored, dissatisfied with where you are in life?

If any of those questions ring true, you’ve come to the right place. As you read articles on my blog and listen to queer thought leadership on the Think Queerly Podcast you’ll discover my approach and strategies designed to live out the best of who you are.

I’m Darren Stehle (pronounced “steel”).

I love being queer…

As a gay man, and someone who also identifies as “queer-minded”, I feel that I have unique gifts and insights that my heterosexual counterparts do not possess. Most of my adult life has been an exploration of the unique and vital role that LGBTQ people play in society.

For much of my early life, I struggled to different degrees with being a completely self-accepting gay man. Speaking from that specific experience, we are conditioned as gay men to fit in, act normal, and be just like everyone else. That affects how we perceive the world and how we feel about ourselves. 

The problem with trying to fit in is that that we will have to lock away parts of who we authentically are – our mannerisms, character traits, things we like to talk about, etc. Holding back parts of yourself is not living out the best of who you are, it’s a denial of who you truly are. If you identify as queer in any way, I’m sure you can relate to my story through your own life experience.

My life experience, work history, and activism unexpectedly led me to my work as a Coach to help LGBTQ people use their difference to lead and create a more balanced, evolved, and humane world.

Listen to this in-depth interview about my background, how I became a coach, my publication Th-Ink Queerly, and The Think Queerly Podcast (formerly the Living OUT Podcast).

A Brief Biography

At a young age, I was diagnosed as dyslexic and having ADHD. My learning challenges led me to pursue higher education (to prove to myself that I was “smart enough”), starting with Chef School, then to University where I pursued a Master’s in German Language and Linguistics.

For 11 years I worked at Pink Triangle Press, a Canadian Gay & Lesbian print media non-profit, moving quickly into a top leadership position. I then ran a fitness coaching business for 15 years. Now I focus my energy on my LGBTQ Thought Leadership which includes coaching, podcasting and writing.

For the last 20 years, I have invested countless hours in independent study, worked with business and life coaches, and have become an expert in well-being, mindset, productivity, personal growth, and queer leadership. 

My Life Purpose Informs How I work as a Coach:

Through self-examination, I seek to first understand myself so that I can help others connect with their creative genius and live out their purpose, to positively improve the lives of others.

I live in Toronto, Canada, with my partner, Christiaan.