Many gay men, myself included, have at some point tried to improve their physical appearance to attract other men. They have felt that they needed to change their body to fit norms and expectations of others.
Taking good care of your body is a positive aspect of well-being. Maintaining your physical health improves longevity, helps control stress, improves sleep quality, and so on. But if the only way you feel you can belong to the “larger gay male community”, and to “compete” for sex and love is to change your body to fit rigid social norms, what then?
In my free book, 7 Beneath-the-Skin Thoughts For Gay Men to Love Their Body, I offer new ways of thinking to help gay men re-frame external reasons for wanting to change their body to conform to social norms. These New Ways of Thinking will help you make choices based on self-worth and well-being to improve your physical health.