Many gay men, myself included, have at some point tried to improve their physical appearance to attract other men. They have felt that they needed to change their body to fit certain norms and the expectations of others.
Taking good care of your body is a positive aspect of well-being. Maintaining your physical health improves longevity, helps control stress, improves sleep quality, and so on.
But if the only way you feel you can belong to the “larger gay male community”, and to “compete” for sex and love is to change your body to fit social norms, what then?
In my free book, 7 Beneath-the-Skin Thoughts For Gay Men to Love Their Body, I offer new ways of thinking to help gay men re-frame external reasons to change their body shape, or to conform to norms.
These new ways of thinking are to help you come from a place of self-worth about your body, and to connect with what’s most important to you for wanting and choosing to take action on improving your physical health.