Coaching With Me

You’re Gay, Out, and Successful…

But is that all there is?

Often as a gay man we feel there’s got to be more to life, that something is missing.

You might not realize it, but you’re probably stuck in the status quo and it’s fucking with being who you are as a gay man.

Are the Best Parts of You Trapped in the Closet?

Darren Stehle headshotIf what you’ve read on my site resonates with you and if you’d like to explore working with me, you’ve come to the right place.

You’ve coming to me to get a clear understanding of why your not getting what you want – why you’re dissatisfied, or why you feel like something is missing in your life.

My role is to help you find solutions to what’s holding you back. More importantly, I will help you make the changes to live out the best of who you are.

What does being boxed in look like for you?

You might be older, mature, and settled down. You don’t feel like you fit in with the gay community anymore. You feel like the odd man out at gay bars, parties, pride, and on grinder or scruff.

Are you confused by the fluidity of sexuality and politics? You grew up in an era when we were all “gay”, or “gays and lesbians.” You’d like to understand how you fit in to the community, if at all.

You want to make a difference in the world but don’t know how. Should it be something to do with LGBTQ rights? What can you offer?

You’re not sure where you fit in with the rest of society. Are you for or against marriage? Should you wear your sexuality on your sleeve? Who will take care of you as you age? What about your sex life? It used to be all you cared about but now that’s not as important as it once was.

Living OUT Coaching

My role is to listen deeply. That might sound vague, but listening is a skill. I start from a place of empathy, of trying to put myself in your shoes. Not to judge anything you say.

I pay attention to what you repeatedly say, what you avoid speaking about directly, how your energy changes, and what remains unvoiced between the lines of your stories. And this is where the most powerful questions come from.

Your Commitment

There will be no expectations, only agreements. In our work together there will only ever be one person to whom you are accountable: YOU.

You agree to…
  1. Hold yourself accountable to whatever you say you will do to change, grow, come out, and reinvent yourself.
  2. Show up to our coaching sessions 100% free of any and all distractions.
I agree to…
  1. Serve you to the best of my ability with skill, insight, empathy, and to call you out when you’re holding yourself back or getting in your own way.
  2. Never prescribe or tell you what to do.

Coaching with me is an investment in yourself

In my coaching I don’t charge for “time elapsed.” I charge for the possibility of your goal being accomplished, which wouldn’t have been achieved without deep coaching work.

We will agree to a framework of how many coaching sessions work best to help you get what you want. Packages start at $2,000 for four months of coaching.

What to do next

Apply for an discovery session to find out if we’re a good fit. Click the button below to complete a brief coaching application and book time in my calendar.

Schedule Appointment

I look forward to learning more about you!