How to Control and Reduce The Toxic Stress of Homophobia – LOP070

Last week I was listening to Jonathan Van Ness’ podcast, Getting Curious (whom many of you might know from the Netflix show, Queer Eye). The episode, What is Toxic Stress & Why is She So Bad?, featured Dr. Caroline Leaf who’s a cognitive neuroscientist with a PhD in Communication Pathology and a BSc in Logopedics […]

Being At Ease With Yourself – LOP067

“…from the standpoint of the ego, the universe is seen as the “other.” The ego concludes that this “other” is against it and, therefore, that I must struggle to survive.” The Tao of Abundance, Laurence G. Boldt Are You Struggling in Any Part of Your Life? Is your love life, career, or your life purpose […]

Life Is What You Make It: Don’t Backdate It. LOP066

When Your Heroes Start Dying. Baby, life’s what you make itCan’t escape itBaby, yesterday’s favoriteDon’t you hate itBaby life’s what you make itDon’t back date itBaby, don’t try to shade itBeauty is nakedBaby, life’s what you make itCelebrate itAnticipate itYesterday’s fadedNothing can change itLife’s what you make it Life’s What You Make It – Talk […]

Your Relationship with Your Mind (the Ego) and the Other

Changing the Structure of Self-Criticism The relationship you have with your mind determines how you feel about yourself. Have you ever noticed your self-talk when you are feeling bad about your actions or behaviours? Do you speak to yourself so critically, that if you were to speak in the same manner to your beloved or […]

Is Instagram to Blame for Gay Thirst Traps or Those Who Follow? LOP064

Reading my Twitter feed last week, I read this knee-jerk reaction to people with beautiful bodies posting pictures of themselves on Instagram, AKA “Thirst Traps”: Hyperbolic language doesn’t solve problems. Putting all of Instagram and gay thirst traps into a single container generally makes things worse. This is the path of blaming external circumstances and […]

What Holds You Back vs What Do You Want More? LOP062

What’s the obstacle in your way? Is it someone, some event, or something? In every instance the only thing in your way is you. It’s up to you to take the necessary steps that will allow you to pass through the obstacle in your way. What are the things you repeatedly do that are holding […]

A Conscious Meditation on the Gap

Entering the space between all things. There is nothing but space between worry and fear. There is nothing but space between love and hate. There is nothing but space between acceptance and rejection. There is nothing but space… …between right and wrong, …between you and me, …between us and them, …between male and female, or masculine and […]

The Cute Little Joys My Gay Boyfriend Brings – LOP060

Happy Valentine’s Day, 2019! My boyfriend, my partner, my lover, brings me joy every day. Moments of joy is what keeps our love alive, strong, and enduring. It’s not about how much money either of us makes. It’s not about how often we have sex. And it’s not about how he looks. “Love is about […]

Fear of “The Other” is Defence of the Ego – LOP059

The basic human fear of anyone else who is unlike us, too dissimilar, or who holds a different view of the world is the original binary. The original binary is the ego versus all else. The binary begins early in life when we learn our name; our identity. Who we are – at the level […]