There’s a lot of gay shame that runs as an undercurrent in my life.
This morning I watched a video by coach Dax Moy. He was talking about the difference between guilt and shame.
- Guilt is how you feel about what you did or didn’t do.
- Shame is how you feel about who you are or who you are not.
A light clicked on, illuminating something that’s been a challenge for me all my life.
I have shame around becoming successful.
What? But the success I envision for myself hasn’t happened yet.
Continue reading “Why I’m Not Good Enough: My Dirty Gay Secret”
“First I was afraid, I was petrified…”
~ Gloria Gaynor
Last week I had a conversation with a coach who helped me get clear on who I work with.
Essentially she helped me come out.
“Why don’t you work with gay men, Darren?”
This question has come up with a few coaches I’ve worked with on my business over the years.
For some reason I thought I shouldn’t box myself in.
Continue reading “My Reasons For (Not) Working With Gay Men”
The other day I wrote a post on my medium publication, Do You Celebrate or Neglect Your Wins?
The idea for the post came from a journal entry a year ago. I was caught up in the “doing of tasks”, stressed about what was going on in my business, and I totally glossed over a win I had on the day.
I remember the day because of how stressful it was.
I had been in a meeting that was very uncomfortable for everybody involved. The person directing the meeting made some very unsettling statements. I felt like cattle, like a piece of meat required to bring in money to the organization. There was nothing shared about worth or value as a way to strengthen the workplace.
Continue reading “Who Believes in You More Than You Do?”