I’m Darren. I Help Other Gay Men Live OUT the Best of Who They Are.

Darren red shirt

Fun fact: I’m wearing my favourite T-shirt in this picture. I wear it sparingly in the silly hope it will never wear out! Seriously, I go much deeper as a person than my T-shirt.

I have a perverse – dare I say it, queer – sense of humour, but this is who I am. I hope my silly intro caught you off guard and put a smile on your face. πŸ™‚

I’m a Proud, OUT Gay Man

Being gay is not all that I am, but for most of my life I’ve struggled to different degrees with being a fully out, completely self-accepting gay man.

The closet is a powerful container.Β I was trapped inside until I came out at 18 years old to my closest friends after high school.Β The truth is that we never stop coming out – it’s a life-long process.

No Matter How Out I Am, I Always Carry a Bit of the Closet with Me.

I think we all do, to different degrees. We were conditioned as gay men to fit in, to be normal, to be just like everyone else.

The problem with fitting is that that we left the BEST parts of ourselves locked away in the closet.

My Background Is as Diverse as it Is Queer!

Darren and Christiaan
With my partner, Christiaan (he’s the tall one).

After high school I participated in a youth volunteer program, backpacked across Europe for four month, studied chef training for a year, and worked on a Master’s of German language and linguistics. I spent 10 years with Pink Triangle Press managing their gay men’s tele-personals system (long before dating apps existed).

In 1993 I opened my own business as a personal trainer and nutrition coach until 2017 when I did a major business pivot, “coming out” as The Queer Coach. πŸ™‚

I’m anΒ avid writer (currently working on another book) and I have a publication on Medium called Th-Ink Queerly.

I live in Toronto, Canada, with my partner, Christiaan.

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